Monday, May 18, 2009

11 Tenets of Companioning

I've referred to these tenets in my own work for some time but I don't think I've ever posted it for your benefit. May it be meaningful in your own life and work.

From Dr. Alan Wolfelt:

1. Companioning is about being present to another person's pain; it is not about taking away the pain.
2. Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being; it is not about thinking you are responsible for finding the way out.
3. Companioning is about honoring the spirit; it is not about focusing on the intellect.
4. Companioning about listening with the heart; it is not about analyzing with the head.
5. Companioning is about bearing witness to the struggle of others; it is not about judging or directing these struggles.
6. Companioning is about walking alongside; it is not about leading or being led.
7. Companioning means discovering the gifts of sacred silence; it does not mean filling up every moment with words.
8. Companioning is about being still; it is not about frantic movement forward.
9. Companioning is about respecting disorder and confusion; it is not about imposing order and logic.
10. Companioning is about learning from others; it is not about teaching them.
11. Companioning is about curiosity; it is not about expertise.

1 comment:

David G. Markham said...

Hi LeighSW:

Excellent! Thanks for posting.

All the best on your important work.

David Markham